I can tell you right now, this week will be the hardest week for me to try and deliver a strong message and a solid foundation. See, I am closing this marriage blog series with a title of “Girl’s Night Out,” and what I want to accomplish is understanding the heart of a woman!
Okay, men, are you with me here – nothing in life is as confusing as a woman! Am I right? Whether single or married, there are always new things to learn and some things that we will spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out.
In light of this – here is an example:
Things Women Say and What Men Hear…
I need = I want
We need = I want
It’s your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now
Do whatever you want = You are going to pay for this later
We need to talk = I need to complain
Sure…go ahead = I don’t want you to
I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!
You’re so manly = You need a shave and you sweat a lot
This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house
I want new curtains = I want new curtains, new carpeting, new furniture, new wallpaper…
I need new shoes = the other 40 pairs are simply the wrong shade
I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep
Do you love me? = I’m going to ask for something expensive
How much do you love me? = I did something today you’re really going to hate
I’ll be ready in a minute = You have 30 Minutes so relax
You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me
Yes = No
No = No
Maybe = No
I’m sorry = You’ll be sorry
I was wrong = Not as wrong as you
Do you like this recipe? = It’s easy to fix, so you’d better get used to it
Was that the baby? = Why don’t you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep
I am going to give you a few quick things that I see as essentials to the heart of a woman. I am not going to pretend that I know all that much, but I can tell you that scripture helps me define some things and I want to point out a few principles that I believe are a foundation. But just before we get there – see if this video resonates with anyone!
Okay, the funny stuff is great and we all need the laughs, but now I want to look at the beauty of the creation of women…so, let’s start with a purpose.
Genesis 2:18, 21-23
“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him… So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
At the creation of man and woman, we know we were all created in God’s image and here we see God give purpose to the woman: “I will make a helper fit for him.”
Point One:
HELPER
Now, I love how God put it – FIT FOR HIM. He created woman to be what the man needed. He created woman to be desirable. Men, there is a reason why we are commanded to love a woman as Christ loves us and the church – because they were created as a perfect fit for us – they deserve our love and respect because of the support that they are to us. Guys, this is a commandment not a suggestion – can I get an AMEN ladies?
Now, as a helper, there are two major things that I see in scripture that I want to share quickly with you that I believe should be the heart of a woman.
Point Two:
TRUSTWORTHY
Relationship – no matter where or how it exists is built on TRUST! This is an ultimate quality in a Godly woman – what should exist in the heart of a woman.
Proverbs 31 gives us the picture of the perfect woman of God – something that is to be aspired to by all women. This is a picture painted in regards to the heart of a woman and her relationship and example of Christ. It is not really about her abilities or her status. But trust is addressed in this way – look at verse 11 with me:
Proverbs 31:11
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”
Women, I know some of you will want to kill me for this one, but a trait that is more common in women than men is gossip. I don’t know why – just as certain things are more common for a man and we can’t truly explain it. The point is – this is a huge point to the character of trust.
Proverbs 11:13, 16a
“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”
“A kindhearted woman gains honor…”
A Godly woman is a woman you can trust! Trust is at the heart of what holds all relationships together. Without trust – there is no relationship. Whether a friend, a co-worker, employee or wife – trust is the mark of a Godly Woman. Integrity is defined by trust – relationships are built on trust – inner contentment is the reward that comes out of trust!
Point Three:
DESIRE FOR WHAT IS RIGHT
Proverbs 31:25
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”
Our equality is measured by our desire to stand for what is right. A Godly woman knows who she is, she can laugh at what comes because she knows her ways are sure – this is all due to the fact that she knows who she belongs to – she belongs to Jesus. We see no separation when it comes to Christ. Look at what Paul says:
Galatians 3:27-28
“for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
The heart of a woman, the Godly woman takes her stand for the right because it is the truth of God! It’s not about gender or status – It is about what God has said is right!
Now, I have given you some principles that are the truth of scripture. Scripture helps with some specifics, but real life lends itself in a whole different light. Scripture also pointed us to principles that are and should be at the heart of a woman.
I will never admit to fully understanding a woman or the heart of a woman. I don’t believe any guy would and if they do – they must be legally insane. Ultimately, what we take from this is that the heart of a woman is what produces her true beauty!
There will always be physical attributes that attract men to women and vice versa. But men, hear me, and women – hear me even more clearly – the woman whose heart follows what we have discovered today – that woman is a true keeper!
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